I Wanna Hold Your Hand by Crank Mama
One of my personal favorites in the World of Mom Blogs is CrankMama. The piece below, originally printed on their site, reminds me that even a small gesture of love towards my spouse counts as a token of appreciation.
You’ve heard that Hubs and I have committed to a weekly date night and that so far we’ve only been out once this year. How lame is that?
We’ve also been trying the 30-day trial approach to more intimacy as a couple. While there is some progress, it’s been slow going. I never imagined it would take so much effort to carve out a measly half hour once a day that’s “just for us”.
We definitely don’t deserve gold stars (yet) and I keep thinking that if the flu hadn’t ransacked our happy home, things would be different. We would have more energy to get through the day, and would in turn make finding that “couple time” an exciting and fun priority. Instead, it was beginning to feel like something we felt we had to do so we could check it off the list - like buying groceries or diapers.
Then it occurred to me: maybe we’ve been making too big a production of this. What about the simple pleasures of being in a relationship with someone you adore?
A friend once told me a story about his grandparents who were married for 50 years and fell asleep holding hands - EVERY SINGLE NIGHT. The romance of that tale struck a cord with me.
So last night, even though we were too strung out on cold medicine and sleep deprivation to do more than lay next to each other, we made connecting a priority and fell asleep - holding hands…
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Comments
Thanks for linking back to my site. As for our comittment - that simple step of holding hands did trigger a deepening intimacy in our relationship. And just the intension of having a weekly date night has helped - even if the actual dates are often pretty lame...
Posted by: CrankMama | February 13, 2008 7:16 AM