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December 3, 2007

A Homework Question

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Even though the holidays are upon us, our children still must struggle through their homework. In fact, for challenging children, homework during December is even more difficult than other times of the year. So this week, we dedicate our Blog to Homework!

Q: My child wants to park himself in the family room and play loud music while he does his homework. I think he should sit quietly at his desk in his room so that he can focus. Who's right?

A: It really is not a question of who's right, but instead, how can you set the stage for your child to complete his homework without nightly battles. Look at the bigger picture here. Ask yourself what can I do to create an environment for my child to succeed in. This is your goal.

You'll want to consider your child's individual learning style; the environmental preferences that help him to concentrate, and the essential strategies that will set the stage for success. Some children focus better when they are listening to music and are in the midst of family functions. Other's need complete silence, free from visual distractions. What does your child need? You may be on one end of the scale and your child on the other. Pay attention to what his learning needs are and help set up a successful environment.

If his steps toward success are impacting you in a negative way (his loud music is not calming for you!), you can ask that he wear head phones. If he needs to sprawl instead of sitting at a desk or table, ask that he move to an area where you are not impacted by him. Remember to appreciate and acknowledge his strengths and abilities, and yours!

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November 19, 2007

One last thought on Parent-Teacher Conferences

One of our readers's Beth Vogt from Mommy-Come-Lately sent the following comment and question:

I'm intrigued by the different conference options available these days: parent/teacher, including the student, and now student-led conferences. Maybe I'm straddling the fence here, but why does it have to be an all or nothing proposition? Why does it have to be one or the other? Maybe give the parents or students a choice. I know one of my daughter's wouldn't have felt comfortable--at least at a young age--doing a student-led conference. My son, on the other hand, would have relished the opportunity.

I also agree with Mary Scribner (see Student-Led Conferences) that there needs to be some time where parents and teachers can talk about a student without the student being there.

I just attended my first-grader's first parent/teacher conference. Before I went, I asked if there was anything I needed to know. "Well, my teacher did have to tell me not to say "ain't," my daughter told me. That's the only problem she could think of. Her teacher and I had a good chuckle over that.

So how can a parent request a conference other than the one the school is coordinating?

From Parent Coach Mary Scribner: I would go directly to the teacher, either by phone or email. Find a time that is convenient for the teacher. Be prepared and empathize with how little time the teacher may have. Again use the approach of working together as a team and collaborating toward helping your child succeed.

Have a question for Mary? Just email her.

November 10, 2007

Student-Led Conferences (by Elizabeth)

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Parent-Teacher Conferences is the theme this month on the A Wild Ride Web site. Under strategies you will find ways to Feel Successful Before, During and After Parent-Teacher Conferences from Parent Coach Rachel Eden. You’ll also find Karen L. Alainiz’s story Time for A Change and several useful resources.

Earlier this week, I wrote about the trend to include the student in the conferences, a trend I support but others prefer the traditional approach. Beth K. Vogt, author of the book BABY CHANGES EVERYTHING: Embracing and Preparing for Motherhood after 35 and the Blog Mommy-Come-Lately , commented on my post:

I've only participated in parent-teacher conferences--lots of them, with three grown children and one in first grade. It always worked well for me the old-fashioned way. I'm not adverse to the P-T-S conference. I figure the P-T conference shouldn't tell me anything I don't already know.

Now I hear of another trend: Student-Led Conferences. We’ve not experienced this type of conference. My first thought is that for a child with special needs or other issues this "assignment" might be extremely daunting. But then I took a quick poll of my fellow-challenged moms and it turns out that most of them saw their child rise to the occasion during a student-led conference.

So I asked my partner Mary Scribner (RN and Parent Coach), here's what she had to say:

When I first heard of student lead conferences I thought it was a terrible idea. No teacher contact. Ridiculous! I then attended my first student lead conference and was wholly impressed. My son was organized, articulate, insightful and could clearly tell us what subjects he was doing well in and where he needed more support. He spoke nonstop for a full 20 minutes about himself. I was very impressed with the process.

That said, I still think that there needs to be a forum for the parent to discuss the student's progress, strengths, and weaknesses with the teacher. I want to hear how my son is doing from the teacher's perspective and also to connect with another adult who is influencing my son's education and growth.

What do you think? Send me an email.

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November 4, 2007

Using the parent-teacher conference for good not evil

When attending the parent conference consider the following from Parent Coach Rachel Eden.

"This is an opportunity to identify the common ground you and the teacher share and clear up any misconceptions about your child or one another.

By identifying what you know your student does well, and what works well in the classroom setting, you and her teacher can together expand that common ground to build on your child's strengths while tackling challenging areas."

To read more of Rachel's suggestions, visit Feel Successful Before, During and After Parent Teacher Conferences.

November 3, 2007

Parent-Teacher-Student Conferences

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Seems the latest trend in Parent-Teacher conferences is to add the student to the mix. Some controversy swirls around this progressive decision. Is it right for every parent and every student?

Both my sons went to private schools where the student was part of the discussion. At first this was extremely intimidating for my older son whose first such conference included my son, me, and his seven teachers. I think it would be overwhelming for anyone to face this many people.

Although most of the discussion was positive, there were some disruptive behavior patterns starting to emerge and together we worked on a solution. Had my son not been present would the outcome have been the same? Or would I have come home from such a conference and had a conversation that went something like this?

“Jake, I met with your teachers today?”

“What?”

“I said, I met with your teachers today.”

“Huh?”

“Take the earplugs out of your ears, turn off the IPod and look at me.”

“Is there something wrong, Mom?”

“No, well, yes. Your teachers said that you talk too much in class.”

“I do not!”

“They say you distract your fellow students, especially John.”

“They’re a bunch of liars.”

“Are you saying your teachers lied to me?”

“Well, no but they didn’t understand. I was trying to keep John from getting into trouble again.”

“Really, how were you doing that?”

“I was trying to tell him to quit looking at my paper. I think he was trying to cheat Mom.”

“Okay. Well, they also said that there are several missing assignments.”

“No way. Not true. I turned in all my assignments. The teachers are too disorganized to find them.”

And so it goes.

Personally I like the accountability of the Parent-Student-Teacher conference for ALL parties involved.

To learn more, read A Twist on Parent-Teacher Conferences in Teacher Magazine.

What do you think about this type of conference? Send your thougths and comments to Elizabeth@awildride.net.


September 14, 2007

More School Tips

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Kelly at AutismSupportsForYou.com sent us this piece printed in the Charlotte Observer:

Parents, some school tips for special-needs children
Find your child's strengths, let go and follow his lead
by BETSY FLAGLER

For students with special needs, going back to school is far more complex than new backpacks and the hottest clothes. Here are tips from parents, professionals and two kids to make the school year a success for kids with special challenges:

First, words of wisdom for teachers and parents from a boy diagnosed with autism: "Respect your students' diverse routes to learning and their diverse styles of manifesting what they have learned."

Having respect means walking on a two-way street, where each child's different learning styles are understood, not squashed, says his mother, Morton Ann Gernsbacher, a psychology professor at the University of Wisconsin in Madison.

Read More...

September 12, 2007

Classroom Support Plan Offer

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Kelly from AutismSupportsForYou.com wrote to us about a new "interactive tool that asks parents, caregivers or teachers about a child's specific learning needs and then recommends individualized classroom supports that can be used for students with Autism and other similar learning styles."

I checked out the site (love the graphic) and found it very user-friendly. Parents are asked to complete a survey that asks questions from a parent, caregiver or educator about a child’s particular learning style and needs. Based on that feedback, it generates a report of individual strategies that can be applied immediately.

According to the site: "The Classroom Support Plan provides individualized, hands-on recommendations to parents and teachers about how to help students with Autism and similar needs have the most successful experience at school."

In an email to me, Kelly explains that "the individualized suggestions focus on using what students with Autism are best at to help them achieve greater success in situations and environments that can be difficult for them such as making friends, smoothly transitioning between different parts of the day, completing tasks, managing emotions and behaviors, understanding social expectations, and handling sensory information in ways that are conducive to a positive learning environment."

Kelly also tells us that "the Classroom Support Plan is designed for children in pre-school through 5th grade with Autism Spectrum Disorders or facing related communication, social, sensory, or movement differences. The content was created by Nanette Negri, Ph.D., and Lisa Hoeme, Educational Consultants for Imagine a Child?s Capacity, based on their many years supporting students with Autism in classroom settings. As a mother of a son on the Spectrum, I know some of these strategies have been effective for him."

There is a one-time fee of $19.95. I'm not one for "quick answers" but the fee seems reasonable enough to give it a try.

It was developed in partnership with Imagine a Child's Capacity, a site that offers parent trainings and clinic services in the Madison, Wisconsin area.


September 2, 2007

Back to School & the Friendship Scene (by Mary)

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FRIENDSHIP STRATEGIES

Here it is -- September already. The “not-so-lazy daze” of summer is waning as we gear up for another school year. If you have a school-age child, her emotions may be all over the map; from anticipatory excitement to extreme dread.

This is true for pre-schoolers as well. This may be the first time your little guy has been away from his parents on a regular basis. A big change that may give the whole family the shivers.

The social scene at school, though it changes as children age, presents countless challenging situations: difficulty sharing, hurt feelings, bullying, teasing, competition, pressure to fit in.

To help your child (ren) work on making and keeping friends, I offer various strategies depending on the age of the child. Some of those strategies include:

For preschoolers:
1. Make sure your child's play dates are short, about 1-1 1/2 hours.
2. Listen in with a baby monitor so you can short circuit any conflicts that could quickly turn sour.

For school-age children:
1. Discuss how her behavior affects other kids and her friendships with them.
2. Share with them your own stories of friendship challenges when you were growing up.

Learning how to be a good friend and positively and collaboratively interact with others is a lifelong process. The more positive reinforcement you can give your child now, the better!

Check out my complete list of ideas by visiting Strategies. ~Mary

To learn more about Mary, visit Sound Parent Coaching.

August 19, 2007

Back to School Tip of the Day #7

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Here's a good reminder from Terri Mauro. On her site, About.com Parenting Special Needs, Terri offers Five Ways to Stop School Behavior Problems. The advise below is a good reminder regardless if your child is challenging or "normal."

Be realistic about your child's abilities.

Pushing and motivating and holding high expectations can drive some children to be all they can be, but it can drive others straight into anxiety and depression. Would you want to work at a job, day in and day out, where you always had to be at the top of your abilities, handling things you weren't quite on top of and hoping things turn out alright? Kids can't quit, and they have very little recourse in terms of demanding better working conditions, but they can find all sorts of ways to act out their anger and despair. Be honest and compassionate when considering what sort of classroom your child will learn best in and what sorts of supports he or she will require. Academics are important, and it's not wrong to make them your biggest concern, but emotional support and feelings of mastery are important, too.

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August 18, 2007

Back to School Tip of the Day #6

Whether dealing with your child's fear of school or other anxieties, here's some good advice from Don't ignore your child's fear of school by Sandy Spurgeon McDaniel, originally published in the August 7 edition of the Orange County Register.

Every great philosopher says to live in the moment. To live tomorrow robs the potential of today. Teach your child to focus on something worth doing today. Put a fearful thought about school, which is not happening today, in a balloon and let it go.

August 17, 2007

Back to School Tip of the Day #5 (by Mary)

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If your child is in counseling – think ahead and schedule appointments outside of school hours, if possible. This makes it less intrusive on her day and alleviates any "make up" work.

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August 16, 2007

Back to School Tip of the Day #4 (by Mary)

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If your child is younger and new to riding the school bus here are a few strategies you can try.

1. Call your school district and arrange a bus tour before school begins.

2. Arrange to have an older child in the neighborhood be her bus buddy.

3. Form a small car pool if buses are too over-stimulating or overwhelming for her.

A stressful start to the school day can mean a difficult time until that last bell rings.

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August 15, 2007

Back to School Tip of the Day #3 (by Mary)

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Shop for new school clothes and school supplies early to beat the crowds, minimize chaos, and alleviate sensory overload. Make this a fun adventure. If you child HATES to shop for clothes, plan ahead and couple the "dreaded" chore with a fun activity for when you are finished. Or, shop for your child.

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August 14, 2007

Back to School Tip of the Day #2 (by Mary)

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If your child has difficulty with transitions or is slow to adapt to change, begin an earlier bedtime and wake-up routine a few weeks before school starts. At least one week before, have your child go to bed and get up at the actual time school will be starting. This will help her begin – and get used to – a predictable routine before that first day of school. This should also help her nervous system adapt to the new schedule.

To read more of Mary's Strategies, click here.

August 13, 2007

Back to School Tip of the Day (by Mary)

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Make the rest of the summer memorable and fun so your child starts school refreshed with memories she can draw on during the school year.

To read more of Mary's Strategies, click here.

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